Do you have difficulty reaching deep satisfying orgasms?
Are you tired of all the advice and suggestions you’ve been given?
You’re not alone.
Although more than 99% of men experience orgasm, considerably less women can experience any kind of orgasm, and even less can achieve deep, long, and meaningful orgasms either by themselves or with a man during penetrative sex.
When a woman encounters issues with sexuality and orgasming, she might be presented with a range of solutions or advices.
A priest might say it’s a sin to even talk about it.
Your mom or your aunt might say something like: “Don’t worry about it. It will come one day. The important thing is that you have a husband and kids”.
Your girl friends might say: “The problem is with your man. He doesn’t know how to satisfy you. Get yourself a vibrator”.
Your man will probably not have a clue, or suggest to watch porn and learn how those actors do it so easily.
Your woman’s magazine might suggest 10 aphrodisiac foods or 5 orgasmic sex positions.
A doctor might say you are suffering from “sexual arousal disorder”, so take this pill, or you have a condition that requires surgery.
A therapist might say: “To understand that, let’s talk about your childhood and sexual history for three months”.
An NLP coach might use language to analyse and improve some aspects of your problem.
A reiki practitioner might suggest moving the energy in your body.
A tantric body-worker might say: “You have tension in your vagina, so I will massage your g-spot and all your problems will be solved”
What would I say?
Imagine you have pain in your back – would you take a pain-killer, or try to solve the problem?
My guess is, if the problem persists, you would probably go to some kind of massage or body work professional, not to a psychologist.
But when women have pain in their vagina, many don’t do anything about it and some go to a doctor or a therapist, to talk about it.
If you have pain or discomfort during sex, understanding the cause might be helpful, but maybe talking therapy by itself is not enough? Perhaps some kind of body work or another holistic treatment might work faster?
On the other hand, body-work alone only addresses one aspect of the situation.
The other problem with the different treatments I’ve mentioned is that most of them come from outside – you need to rely on other people, substances or medical procedures to improve your condition.
This is very typical of western society – most people look for quick and easy fixes that come from outside and only address the symptoms.
In particular, many women have a subconscious tendency to expect to be “saved”, “rescued” or led to safety by another person, usually a man.
Instead, wouldn’t it be better and more effective for you to understand, approach, and improve your condition by yourself?
You can do this before, instead, or alongside any other form of therapy, as your personal work will not conflict with other forms of therapy.
Actually, it’s very helpful to see a variety of experienced professionals, as they have the knowledge and techniques to address various aspects of your problem much more deeply than you can by yourself.
But realize that the strongest transformation comes from your own decision to change your life, and from your own actions that follow your decision. It will also help you become more independent and empowered in your sexuality, relationship, and generally in your life.
This is where I’m unique in my approach.
This is where I can help.
Holistic Sexual Healing
During my career as a sexual healer and coach, I have gone all the way from intense body work to verbal-only coaching via the internet with people on the other side of the world. I have studied and practiced many modalities of body-work, yoga, meditation, counselling, healing, therapy and coaching.
I have integrated my own experience, what I heard and learnt from others, and all these different modalities, and created the “Holistic sexual healing” model.
My holistic transformation model has been successful and effective in improving the lives of hundreds of people. A major part of this model is the self-work you need to do in order to change your life.
This model is comprised of five key processes:
• Reflect – Look at where are you now. What do you need to understand about yourself, your tendencies and your limiting beliefs? Which habits are disempowering you? What unconscious ‘roles’ do you play or ‘stories’ do you tell? How are you limiting your orgasmic experience?
• Know – What you need to know about your body and your capacity to orgasm. What are the twenty different kinds of orgasms you can experience? How can you become fully orgasmic?
• Embody – What you can actually do to embody a greater orgasmic experience and completely unleash your orgasm. Which practices will help you to overcome what is limiting you? What techniques can expand your orgasmic experience?
• Receive – It’s okay to receive help when you need it. How can others support you in your healing? Who can assist you on your orgasmic journey?
• Transform –Your orgasmic practice can transform your life. What lifestyle changes will support your sexuality and orgasmic experience? How will you express your sexual transformation in your daily life?
If you follow this model, you can expect to feel more connected to your body, femininity, and sexuality. You will become more orgasmic by yourself and with your partner, and feel better in your daily life.
Many more effects and results are possible.
Because sexuality and sexual energy is such a fundamental, important and often over-looked issue, by working on your sexuality, your whole life might transform.
In order for this to work, you need to take responsibility for yourself as an adult, to take an honest look at yourself, and to commit to pushing through your own resistance.
That being said, some practices in my model will be easier for you because you don’t have to share your secrets with another person, or have some stranger touch your private parts, or pay thousands of dollars to a life coach.
Are you committed to solving your problems and experiencing ecstatic sex and meaningful relationships?
The “Holistic Sexual Healing Model” is covered in my upcoming book “Orgasm Unleashed – Your guide to pleasure, healing and power”. Click here to download a free 70 pages sample or get the gorgeous paperback from Amazon.
If you have issues around sexuality that you would like to discuss, email me, or take a look at the coaching page.
How does your own journey with sexuality correspond to the 5 aspects?
