Female ejaculation is real. When some women get highly aroused – they release anything from a few drops to a cupful of fluid. It is not urine, though it can contain traces of it. There are three types (thick, clear, and the more rare cervical) and three ways to produce it (G-spot pressure, squeezing the vaginal muscles, or purely from arousal). For most women it can be learned – alone, or more easily with a skilled
partner. Read on to learn what it is how you might produce it.
Q: Is female ejaculation real, or a myth?
A: It’s real. The confusion comes from how many different fluids a woman can
release, and from decades of it being dismissed or mislabeled.
Q: Is female ejaculation just pee?
A: Sometimes partly, but usually not. Several fluids get confused:
- Vaginal lubrication – some women produce so much it’s mistaken for ejaculation. My lover once danced for me, and her juices trickled down to her knee.
- Urine – some women do release a little during a strong orgasm, when the
contractions and deep relaxation let go of the bladder. Nothing wrong with that,
but it isn’t ejaculation. - “Real” ejaculation – compare it to your own urine before and after sex: it looks,
smells and tastes clearly different. Some studies describe it as a very diluted
form of urine without the ammonia that gives urine its sharp smell. Related in
some cases, but not the same fluid – and not a sign anything’s wrong with you.
Q: What are the different types of female ejaculation?
A: Three distinct types:
- Thick ejaculation. A slightly milky fluid released after strong clitoral
stimulation, usually in one gush. Afterwards the woman might become
hyper-sensitive and doesn’t want to continue, at least for some time. This is the closest to male
ejaculation, and like men, women can feel drained afterwards. - “Real” ejaculation (the clear kind). A clear, light, slightly sweet fluid
linked to G-spot stimulation and orgasm, from the urethra and/or vagina. In Tantra
it’s called “Amrita” – divine nectar. Unlike the thick kind, there’s no loss of
energy, and a woman can keep ejaculating and orgasming for long minutes. - Cervical ejaculation. A rare type released from the cervix in a few milky,
sweet drops, linked to deep cervical-uterine orgasms. The most subtle form.
Q: What are some ways that a woman can ejaculate?
A: There are a few ways for a woman to female-ejaculate:
- From strong stimulation or pressure to the vagina – especially the G-spot –
with fingers, a toy, or a partner. The G-spot swells when aroused and can then be
“milked” to release the fluid. - By learning to squeeze the vaginal muscles. Once very aroused, some women can
ejaculate almost at will. - With no strong stimulation at all – pleasure or orgasm creates natural
contractions. I’ve met women who ejaculated while dancing, eye-gazing, or
meditating.
Q: What part of the body produces female ejaculation?
A: The Skene’s glands (paraurethral glands, often called the “female prostate”) sit around the urethra. When the G-spot/urethral sponge is stimulated and engorged, they fill with a prostate-like fluid containing PSA (prostate-specific antigen) and expel it through the urethra. This is different to Bartholin’s glands, which only make lubrication near the vaginal opening, not ejaculate.
Q: How to female ejaculate by myself?
A: Get genuinely aroused, then stimulate yourself vaginally. Notice whether your
G-spot becomes engorged, or whether you feel like you need to pee when you press
on it (normal, and it usually passes).
Then squeeze the G-spot with your middle and ring fingers, pressing upward toward
your pubic bone – either squeezing the tissue or sliding along it in a milking
motion. If your fingers tire, use a dildo. Practice relaxed: for many women the
block isn’t physical, it’s the fear of letting go.
Don’t expect yourself to female ejaculate. Instead, focus on pleasure and connection to yourself. Explore all the kinds of pleasure and orgasmic states that you might have, regardless of female ejaculation.
Q: What should I know before I try?
A: Some women produce so much fluid they can soak a mattress, so keep thick towels
nearby. I’ve heard about a couple who had to make love in an inflatable kids pool. That was the only way to contain the vast amounts of liquid.
If you’re an ejaculator and you’re seeing a new partner, tell him beforehand – most men have never come across this and will assume you’re peeing on them.
Female ejaculation isn’t a party trick or a sign anything’s wrong with you. For most women it’s a deeper kind of surrender – one you can learn on your own, and one a skilled partner can open up for you.
If you never ejaculate, there’s nothing wrong with you. Many women can experience deep pleasure and various kinds of orgasms, and never ejaculate.
Q: How can a partner help you ejaculate?
A: It’s often far easier with a partner – better access, and you can fully relax
and surrender instead of working at it. The most reliable route is skilled vaginal
massage: slow, patient, knowing exactly where and how to touch you.
The problem: most partners have no idea how. That’s what I teach in Awakening
Female Pleasure video course – how a partner can touch, massage and pleasure a woman’s body and vagina properly, with sensitivity and presence. The training doesn’t promise to “make you squirt” (no honest program can), but it teaches the hands-on vaginal massage that might make you female-ejaculate.
The course also teaches cloths-on practices for connection and intimacy, female orgasm theory, five elements of touch, healing breast massage, whole body massage, and much more.
Most men have no idea how to touch a woman in way which is both safe and arousing. Get this training and share it with your current or future partner.
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